Cornelius Toomer, Jr.

Sunrise: July 17, 1952

Sunset: January 17, 2023

CORNELIUS TOOMER JR., affectionately known as Nealie or Toomer was born on July 17, 1952. Toomer was the fourth of ten children born to the late Cornelius Sr. and Olga Toomer in Camden, New Jersey. Being a child of Panamanian descent, he quickly learned the meaning of family, hard work, and discipline. Toomer’s educational career started in the New Jersey school system where he completed elementary and secondary school, eventually earning his high school diploma at Edgewood Regional High. During his high school years, Toomer found his love for  football as a defensive linemen. While in high school he was awarded defensive player of the year his senior year.  Upon high school graduation in 1972, he continued his education career at Glassboro State College, but later decided in September of 1974, to enlist in the United States Navy.

Three short years after serving his country, he later devoted his love to his high school sweetheart, Yvonne “Bonnie” Harris on June 5, 1977. From this union,  three beautiful daughters were born, Shonyette, Tennille, and Ebony. In 1981, Toomer decided to move his wife and children to Norfolk, Virginia. While residing in Virginia, Toomer continued his military career, which included over ten years on the USS Normandy (CG-60) a Ticonderoga-class guided-missile cruiser, where he made many lifetime friends. After being awarded a Navy Achievement Medal, Navy Unit Commendation Medal, Battle “E” (5 Awards), Good Conduct Award (5 Awards), National Defense Medal, Southwest Asia Service Medal (W/2 Bronze Stars), Sea Service Deployment Ribbon (4 Awards), Kuwait Liberation Service Medal, Toomer would later retire after twenty years of service as a DK1 (Disbursement Clerk) in 1994. While retired, Toomer enjoyed volunteering and helping his community.  In 2002, Toomer felt a greater calling to teach and serve. As a result, he became a paraprofessional at Booker T. Washington High School with Norfolk Public Schools. Toomer was so committed to the students and staff that he dedicated twenty years to the school community, where he once again retired in June of 2022. He was loved and a valuable member of the staff, and he cherished every moment with the students he worked with.
Toomer lived his life to the fullest. He found joy in small treasures. The treasures in which he found the most joy were his wife, three daughters, grandchildren, and his passion for Nike, the Dallas Cowboys, and dressing well. All those that knew Toomer recognized his impeccable style. He was a sharp dresser who took pride in making sure every suit had a matching shoe, and every hoodie had a matching hat and sneaker.  This same style was evident in his love for decorating the family home or growing his plants. But most of all, Toomer treasured his family. His daughters and grandchildren made him proud, and he loved to share their accomplishments. Toomer’s most prized treasure was his dear wife and partner, Bonnie, with whom he shared 46 years of marriage.
Toomer was preceded in death by his grandmother (Louise), mother (Olga), father (Cornelius Sr.), sisters (Sandra) (Debra). He leaves to cherish his memories, wife Bonnie, three daughters, Shonyette Louise, Tennille Denise, and Ebony Essence (William) all of Norfolk, Virginia. Three grandsons, Daquan Davis, Tyrique Jenkins, and William (EJ) McCoy II. One granddaughter, MaKenzie McCoy and one great grand, Miaja Jenkins. Six sisters, Pam Judah, Barbara Bullock, Shawn DeAngelis (Massimo), Denise Covington (Kyle), Antoinette Schwartz (James), and Doreen Toomer. One brother, Enrique Toomer. One sister in love, Sheba Carter (Earl) and a host of nieces, nephews, friends and shipmates he loved dearly.

Viewing Thursday, February 2, 2023 2:00pm - 6:00pm Metropolitan Funeral Service 120 West Berkley Avenue Norfolk, VA 23523 Service COME IN PERSON OR WATCH SERVICE LIVE ONLINE Friday, February 3, 2023 11:00am Metropolitan Funeral Service Berkley Chapel Interment Albert G. Horton Veteran Cemetery 5310 Milners Road Suffolk, VA 23434

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    Linda Luster says

    Praying God’s comfort and strength to you and your family .

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    Darrell J Nelson says

    Rest easy my brother May God keep you in his humble embrace.You have fought the good fight. Your Friend and Shipmate CW02 Darrell J. Nelson

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    Jean Williams says

    My deepest condolences to his family and friends. 🙏🏽

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      Darnell brown says

      Darnell brown Says you will be missed brother. It was fun growing up with you. I will see you someday and we will shake hands hug and laugh about the good old days. Love you my brother.

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    Jean Williams says

    Asking God to give you the strength to endure your pain. 🙏🏽

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    Earl and Reese Hargrove says

    Asking God to bless you and your family during the lost of your love one. 🙏🏽

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    Rickey L Ross says

    FROM YOUR MEADOWBROOK WOODS NEIGHBORS: “Bonnie Toomer, we’re sorry for your loss, and offer our deepest sympathies to you and your family – thinking of you at this difficult time.”

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    Gwen & Gianna Toomer says

    Sending love, hugs and prayers to you Bonnie and the family. My deepest condolences and may Nealie rest in perfect peace.

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    Michelle Davis says

    Toomer family, may the memories held deep inside your heart help to comfort you during this difficult time. You’re in my prayers and thoughts. With deepest sympathy. ~ Michelle Hardy (Davis)

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    Glen and Bernie Datden says

    Heaven has gained another Angel. To the Toomer family please accept our deepest condolences. Bonnie I pray that you and the family will find peace and comfort knowing Cornelius is resting in the arms of our Heavenly Father. Every flower he planted will bloom and flourish within your hearts forever 🙏🏽🙏🏽❤️💕. Love y’all

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    Chavon Bell says

    Sending love and light to comfort you all during this time. Prayers to the family. May God continue to order your steps and leave you with the most positive memories. Love you much~Chavon Bell

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    Sallie T. Cooke says

    My deepest condolences go out to the family of Mr. Toomer. I worked with him at Booker T. Washington High School. He made a good impact on his students. I am so sorry to hear of his passing, but I know that he is in a better place. Praying for his family during this difficult time.

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      Cynthia K Bennett says

      Sorry to hear of your loss deepest condolences to the family.

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    Anita Monroe says

    What a life well lived. Praying sweet memories and peace for his family.

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    Eloise Godwin says

    This is Kwane’s Aunt Eloise Godwin, Uncle Thaddeus Godwin we are sending condolences to Tennille and entire Toomer families.
    We are so sorry to hear of your father gaining his wings.
    You are in our prayers at this difficult time.
    Dr. & Rev. Thaddeus Godwin Sr.
    Lisbon Street Missionary Baptist Church Clinton, NC.

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    Arthur & Barbara Brooks says

    Bonnie and family – may all those beautiful memories created throughout the years comfort you at this difficult time. Neal was a good shipmate during our tour with HM16 in the Navy. We’re sending our sincere condolences and prayers asking God to give you and the family strength today and in the future. Rest in peace thy good and faithful servant.

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      Dassie Fryar Oates says

      So sorry to hear of the loss of your family member. Sending condolence and prayers for comfort. From Kwane’s, uncle Hosea and aunt Elaine

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    Amos & Brenda Gainey Cooper says

    From the uncle and aunt of Kwane Darden:
    We were so deeply saddened when we heard of the passing of Bro. Toomer. Tennille, Mother Bonnie and the entire Toomer family, you all have our sincerest condolences and prayers during this difficult time. May you find comfort in knowing God is with you and will not leave you comfortless.🙏🏽💕

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    Clayton and Priscilla McLamb says

    With deepest sympathy and prayers for the family.
    Sending love ❤️
    Uncle Clayton and Priscilla McLamb

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    Johnnie and Pearlena Whitted says

    We are so sorry for your loss and keeping you all in our prayers. We love y’all ❤️
    Uncle Johnnie and Pearlena Whitted

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    Johnnie and Pearlena Whitted says

    Kwane’s Uncles and Aunts
    Clayton and Priscilla McLamb and

    Johnnie and Pearlena Whitted

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      Cynthia K Bennett says

      Sorry to hear of your loss deepest condolences to the family.

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    August Wilson says

    How do I even begin to express my love and admiration for my friend and shipmate on the USS Fulton? Even though I had 3 brothers by blood, and he was not related by blood he was #1 in my book. Before the days of cell phones and computers I was a single man with no home phone or address, so when orders sent us on our separate journeys to travel the earth, we lost touch twice. Once I walked into a club on base and saw him sitting at a table and years later, he saw my car parked at my mother’s home hundreds of miles from his home. He was meant to be my big brother and friend; I will miss him dearly. To Bonnie and the family, he was the best. I love you all.

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    Jeffrey L Toomer says

    “STAND DOWN, SAILOR — JOB WELL DONE!”…. Your earthly journey of fair winds and following seas have finally delivered you to THE KINGDOM OF GOD. Much love for you and your family.

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    Darnell brown says

    Darnell brown Says you will be missed brother. It was fun growing up with you. I will see you someday and we will shake hands hug and laugh about the good old days. Love you my brother.

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    Steve Perkins says

    No better Shipmate could a man ask for. USS Normandy was so much a great and better ship due to “Toomer”. Rest your oars, we have the watch.

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